Major Stress

[DragonMancer]

I need some help desperatley. I have my exams coming up, and they're pretty important ones aswell. I know that naturally with exams comes some degree of stress, but my school has had us doing so many tests, practices and unit tests, none of which we are allowed to fail for it affects our marks in the real exams, or can even lead to our marks not counting at all. I don't want to resit any of my subjects for next year will be my last and I want to do something different.

Anyway I have been way to stressed lately and it is not doing any good for my health. It has got so bad now that I have begun having nightmares. Now, I don't mean your average wake-up-in-the-moring-and-it-will-be-alright-by-the-next-night nightmares. I'm talking nightmares where I physically can't move from my bed to turn on my light cause I am terrified of what could be waiting for me outside my duvet. I wake up thrashing around wildly in a blind panic. I even had one where I tried to leave my room afterwards, but I was shaking that much that my legs couldn't support me. I now can't sleep with the light off in my room, and have to have the radio or t.v on when I go to bed at night (background noise and all that jazz).

I suppose what I'm asking is, can anyone help me deal with my stress. I do meditate, I've taken to doing it before I go to bed now. I've talked about it to my mum, and I am totally against taking any pills or medication for it. I do use herbal droplet stuff, but it only lasts for a wee while, and I only take it before I go into exams.

Please, Please, PLEASE help me!
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On a sleepless evening I sing alone. Tomorrow I'll sing with you on the wings of a dream.

[Icedheart]

I really am not sure how to help... But i can try!

Well, to comfort you, I also have bad dreams, I imagine things across the room, I hurry in and out of my bed because I fear something might grab my legs, I'm scared to have even a leg out of the cover, and I also have to have background noises or a light till I drift off, so you're not alone.

I don't have very good nights, I will stay awake till about 2am, having so much energy even if I hate nothing that day, then fall asleep for an hour, wake up, at around 3 am (I check my phone clock), then stay awake, drift off for another 15 minutes, wake up again. All in all I have around two hours of sleep, but I'm never tired during the day, until it all gets too much, heh.

So yeah, I find tough, that I tell myself off when I imagine such thoughts, but there's some I can't shake. Tell yourself there not there, it's just you being stupid, I normally have some sort of light thing with me (e.g, my phone), and I MAKE myself look under the bed, no matter how scared I am. I also keep my mind off of it by drawing, seeing as this is what I excel in, I do it, or I read.

Maybe reading a nice calming romance book or something? I hope you haven't fallen into the pattern I have. ^^
Meditation is good, have you tried sitting straight up against the back of your bed before you fall asleep, sit up straight and keep your head straight forwards, eyes closed, I imagine something happening. Then, two sentences mixed together, or decide to use numbers counting to five then back down again, something good.
I will not be afraid.
1,2,3,4,5.

I 1 will 2 not 3 be 4 afraid 5.
5 afraid 4 be 3 not 2 will 1 I.

Though this isn't exactly how you can do it, so I will ask my teacher who taught me it.

I can help, do it till you fall asleep, thinking of happy things, helping others, something that makes you feel big, brave, strong and all that jazz.

Again I will ask my teacher for you, but I find the only way I actually get out of bed in the middle of the night or something, is because I force myself to, and I rush it all. But you should relax, tell yourself there's nothing there, and I won't tell you what I do coming back to my room .

I will most likely reply to this when I've asked my teacher, she helps a lot, and I know SO many people that have ways of sorting this out.

Sorry if it seems slightly messy, but again, I will most likely reply with something neater and better for you.

And also some ways that I've found out from people and myself (I'll collect some first) on how you can possibly decline your stress levels!

PM me if you want to ask something, I'll be more than happy to help.
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Their enchanting voices.Cry to the crystal moon.As light of silver, descends with grace.The wolves prowl restlessly.Calling to each other.

[Ragnarok]

Many schools have a counselor or somesuch that you may be able to talk to, and there's always the option of getting some professional help.

Past that, I'm afraid I'll be of little assistance, having never gone through anything like that in the past.
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To win against an opponent stronger than yourself, you must not be weaker than that opponent. - Takamachi Nanoha

[Syrobe]

The nightmares you are talking about, make me think that you are affraid to fail those tests.

Try to face that fear, it could help you relax a bit (truly admit that you are affraid and see what you feel while doing that).

You might be surprised: if relief does follow (and I expect that will be the case because you will have 'seen' the things you are so stressed about), you might even pass the tests.

And you even might be able to sleep relaxed again...

I wish that for you.
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- power is gained through wisdom -

[DragonMancer]

Thank you all very much. Umm...well I'll try all of that and I am currently not at school because of how stressed I am, which isn't making anything better but...yeah.

I am afraid to fail my exams Syrobe, because I need to pass them to try and get into most of the drama colleges I have been looking at. I don't want to resit them, because I need to do a few more different courses to build up my...ummm...qualifications...grades (I don't know).

Ragnarok, if I had any counselors in my school to which I could talk to so openly, trust me I would have done it before. The counselors I have the immense pleasure of talking to once a month talk to me as if I am as thick as two short planks of wood, when I am ruddy well not. My mum has made an appointment with our family doctor so we'll see what happens.

And Iced...thank you. I'll try out what you said, and you have helped.

I feel like a total banana at the moment...grrr....

Well thanks everyone, I'll see what happens and try all the things you have said.

xxxx
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On a sleepless evening I sing alone. Tomorrow I'll sing with you on the wings of a dream.

[RamenDemon]

don't worry: it'll be easy: i got a 177% grade.
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Really, you should know better than steal a bowl of ramen from a Dragon.. *slu-u-u-rp*

[DragonMancer]

U-umm. Yay you! I think.

Our grades don't quite work like that....I think....and our exams I believe are slightly different from yours. But thanks anyway RamenDemon. xxxx
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On a sleepless evening I sing alone. Tomorrow I'll sing with you on the wings of a dream.